I don’t like gray area. Either it’s right or wrong, no ambiguity, no in betweens. I guess you can say I am an extremist. I go one way at 100 miles per hour. When I pick a route, I become overly dedicated to it and usually don’t factor in changing paths or directions. You could see how this mindset might present a few problems.
Life has a way of making other plans, throwing curveballs into my perfectly defined path. For a while, those curveballs would send me into a tailspin. I was (and still sometimes am) inflexible and became very irritated when things didn’t go the way I planned. That deal sort of worked in high school, but for college, it wouldn’t do. It became especially true when I started my job as a Resident Assistant in one of Temple’s residence halls. Plans would be changed constantly, schedules would have to be flexible and so on. Thanks to this experience, I started embracing the gray area that filled my life.
For me, trying not to live in any shade was the hardest part. The choice shouldn’t be black, white or gray. It was just a choice I had to make. Some were small, others were more important. I focused so much time on defining how extreme my choice was that I didn’t actually focus on the positive aspects of the decision I was making. Gray area means uncertainty and that scares me. But, every choice comes with some level of uncertainty. I’m beginning to feel more comfortable with uncertainty since sometimes, it leads to great experiences.
I am a huge country music fan (sorry!) and look to music to motivate me. Thanks to a good friend, I came across a Lady Antebellum song that helped me embrace the gray area in my life. One Day You Will brings a message of hope for the future and that every decision has a silver lining. Enjoy the song below and share your thoughts with me! Happy Monday!
Tagged: Choices, Clarity, Decisions, Extremist, Gray Area, Lady Antebellum, Motivation Mondays, Perspective
We seriously need to be friends. I’m beginning to think we are the same person lol. EVERYTHING needed to be black and white. I can’t handle grey. And ever since graduating Temple my life has been nothing but grey and it’s been a hard adjustment. I still struggle with it, but I’m at least aware of what I’m doing so I can try and be more flexible with myself and where life takes me.
We do need to be friends! Graduating absolutely turned my life into a world of gray. I don’t get it right everyday, but learning to be more balanced. It’s a work in progress. Thanks for commenting and reading!